With an article title like this, you might think I’m slightly vile. What self-respecting woman in her thirties would actually ADMIT to marrying a sugar daddy? Believe me, I’m not jockeying for a slot on an upcoming Dr. Phil segment where he pits the shameless gold digger against the prim and proper gals who married for plain and simple love.
My parents had groomed me to be a doctor’s wife – clearly, a pedigree that a girl like me could never attain on her own. But my parents and friends thought I was insane to marry someone who would never get my generational references. I was only 5 years old when he was 20. I know – creepy. If you’re married, you know there are many factors that go into the decision to marry “the one.” When I met “the one,” he just happened to be fifteen years older than me and a well-established physician.
The Tyra Banks show recently asked me to be a guest on a show in which I’d sit with my husband like two deer – caught in the headlights – and let the audience rip us both a new one as I admitted that I married for money and not love. It might seem as if I was looking for a bank account rather than a husband – and while that may appear to be the method behind my madness, it’s so much more complicated than that. While that is partly true, my husband left his clinical practice after 20 very long years as a practicing physician.
I think staying in a marriage when you really feel like you want to cut out takes far more guts than the actual act of getting married. It’s been a journey, for better and for worse.
What are your thoughts on marrying for love or money?
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I’m sorry, but I’m confused. You don’t really say why you married for money. Did you feel like you couldn’t support yourself? Did you feel like you valued wealth over other virtues in a partner? Yes, staying married is commendable, but if it’s a business relationship more than an emotional commitment, I would think that the marriage would be easier to maintain. I would love to know more! I’ll have to head over to your site when I have some time and try to figure things out.
I think you raise an interesting point- I also think my ideas and expectations about marriage at age 25 were vastly different than they are now. But one thing I know for sure is that I have always and continue to love this man to whom I am married- if I didn’t we could never have survived these past 15 years together. If you don’t have love as the foundation, your relationship will not be able to sustain itself.
Money is better than poverty, if only for financial reasons. Woody Allen
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